Social Phobia And Depression
It is no surprise that social phobia and depression are often seen together. One of the most integral parts of being human is a need for social connection.
We are made for social interaction, and we crave it when we do not have it.
One of the biggest punishments we can give to another person is social isolation. Think of the prison system where solitary confinement is used or native tribes where people are punished by being shunned or cast out from the group - banned from contact with others.
Historically, humans have been dependant on the help and protection of others to survive so it is a need that is hard wired into us.
What if You Are Afraid?
But what happens if you are fearful of social interaction? What if you feel nervous or awkward around people?
We need human contact almost as much as we need air or food. If we avoid others out of fear or discomfort we begin to suffer physically and mentally. This is why social phobia and depression are so often seen together.
It is natural to need connection with others and natural to feel depressed if we are deprived of this.
I Don't Need Anyone
When you have social anxiety or social phobia as it is sometimes called, you usually become pretty good at being alone. Out of necessity you learn to keep yourself amused and to comfort yourself.
When you feel rejected by others, it is natural to cope by becoming very independant.
It is good to be self sufficient and good to be independant. Many people enjoy being alone sometimes for long periods of time.
But we all have a deep need for social interaction and human connection. When this need is not being met even the most self sufficient of us can start to feel alone and depressed.
We have times where we wonder what is wrong with us or we question our self worth.
Social Phobia and Depression Can Be Devastating
A common response to recovering from hurt, discouragement, or trauma is to reach out to someone else.
Even just having someone to listen to us talk, just offering an ear helps us feel better. Even if the person gives us no particular advice the act of them listening and understanding helps give us hope.
Some many scientific studies show that having even one person that you consider to be close or even one person to talk to lengthens your life significantly.
Social phobia and depression are both isloating conditions. Social phobia isolates us through fear of interaction, and depression isolates us through withdrawal from the world.
Life Can Get Better
If you can relate to some or all of this, get help right away. Reach out to someone and tell them how you feel.
You may have had social anxiety so long that it has caused depression, or you may have suffered from depression for a long time and that has caused you to withdraw from people and even become nervous or awkward around others.
However it started, there is help ou there that works. By taking control of your life and reaching out for solutions you can beat depression and social phobia.
Social Confidence Is A Learned Skill
Yes some people seem so confident socially that you might expect they were born that way. While its true that some people seem to have a bolder personality and some are more extraverted than others, social skills are soemthing that is learned.
You can become confident and relaxed in social situations. You can become so confident that you may wonder what you were ever nervous about.
All it takes is information and dedication. You need to be prepared to learn and practice. It's just like anything else - from learning a new sport, or language or hobby - when you start out you feel like you don't know much (and you don't) but as you leanr and practice more you become skilled - and sometimes even a master!
The sky is the limit.
Self hypnosis and social phobia
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